My largest complaint is that the author seems to think that everyone thinks and feels the same way he does. He seems to rationalize his behavior in his own way. It's okay to have sex with a client because he is just a man, and men have urges.
He calls all massage therapists slaves as well.
Some massage therapists are saying every new massage therapist should read this book, and some not.
I would think the book would be a bit of an embarrassment to the author because previous to the book coming out, he was fairly prestigious in the massage and spa industry.
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If that's truly what he's saying, it is one of the biggest copouts in history. It is frequently used to justify rape by blaming the victim(s).It's okay to have sex with a client because he is just a man, and men have urges.
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JLWmassage wrote:I haven't read it yet, but with all the buzz about the book I am really curious
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He did a lot of expert witnessing and was a spokes person quite a few times according to the book. Of course, if he had told the people who hired him that he was sleeping with clients, I doubt he would have been hired. It seems Stevo will do anything if you throw enough money at him. Which he essentially says anyone would do, so why shouldn't he?
Stevo is now married and has two kids. If my husband wrote something like this about his past before me, I would lose a lot of respect for my husband. I wonder if Mrs. Stevo read this book.
I'm alternating laughter with cringing.
So I wouldn't make the decisions he has (and I have had the subtle come on & played all clueless), but if you take the timeframes and situations into account, it starts in the 70s, and skip over the misuse of words (one is discreet in affairs, not discrete), it is a fun read.
Do I think some bozos will read it and look for happy endings, oh yeah. They won't see it as this one individual's choices.
Do I think he means to play us all off as prostitutes? Not really. I think he's confessing, a flawed human.
And he does touch on the sex trade/slavery issue. Very important issue.
I think MT readers should assess their boundaries. Know where yours are and hold to them.
After a reread, and I want those two evenings of my life back, I've concluded that the book is damaging to therapists, especially male therapists.