Please pardon me for a brief rant...
If someone wants to come onto this thread (or this section of the forum) and spout incendiary stuff that stirs anger in the hearts of their fellow practitioners... let'em. It usually leads to productive sharing of deeper feelings that motivate behaviors and displayed attitudes. While we don't always like what we learn about someone, it's also a good opportunity to work our way past the disagreements and try to find some common ground to work from.
Ultimately, this is how we can change hearts and minds.
I am a male therapist, and I probably do more chest and hip flexor work than any four of my employees combined. Do I fret about whether a client has been abused or had some other traumatic experience related to the areas I am working? Never. If they don't share such concerns with me during our intake, I am not going to assume that problems will suddenly arise. Neither will I assume that such problems will never arise. That is part of the reason for doing an intake. It is their opportunity to share any concerns with me beforehand. If they choose to keep mum for whatever reason, I am not going to question that. They have their reasons and that's just fine. When they want me to know, they'll say so. Resolution of emotional issues is outside my scope of practice, regardless of what some practitioners (and CE providers) suggest to the contrary.
Do I care if a client has a significant other that would be jealous or angry because of the work I do for that client? No. So long as the jealous person doesn't interfere with my business, it's none of my concern. The client has to make their own choices and accept the consequences of their actions.
Sometimes I think MTs worry WAY too much about this or that possible thing, or about vague hints of client emotional issues, or whether someone might take offense to something we do or say. It's ridiculous. Many lengthy books have been published on the topic of "How to be a decent person and not a jerk therapist" - and I've seen many of those books recommended over and over - even have some on my shelf (and read'em). Is it really that hard to just be a good person, attentive to clients but not overly into their private life, and not blur the client/therapist boundaries?
And being a male MT: is it really so bad? I've run head-first into the idiots that have discriminatory hiring practices... but their practices generally aren't the sort of place I would want to work for long anyway. If you can't join'em, beat'em. Being a male MT has helped me avoid working for fools that can't see the longstanding errors of their ways, and propelled me to become co-owner of a large, successful massage center of good repute.
Mountains or molehills. Half-full or half-empty. Choose your perspectives and live with the consequences. There is always a way to become a better version of yourself, even if it's not the way you originally had in mind.
Jason Erickson, NCTMB, ACE-CPT, AIS-TA
Massage Therapist, Personal Trainer
Internet forums are like going to the zoo; if you get enough monkeys together, sooner or later someone will start throwing their poo.