Personally I find it most effective to work the "tailbone" and lower pelvic floor reflexes - if one part of the pelvic floor is tight I'd bet it is making the neighbors a bit uncomfortable too. General thumb walking or a nice, gentle to start, knuckle glide across the pelvic floor area can give some relief for a short period of time.
As a birth doula I encounter the hemorrhoid question often - one thing that seems to work really well is Thayer's Witch Hazel in either bottle form
or the astringent pads
. My female clients squirt some from the Thayer's bottle right onto a feminine napkin and throw it in the freezer for some relief from hemorrhoids, an episiotomy or tearing/stitches. Works wonders for temporary relief.